You must leave him ASAP! He is a controller and an abuser and if you stay, he will strap you down with babies and call you so many rotten things until every ounce of your self-esteem is utterly gone. An abusive man must be left early — the earlier, the better. You’ve already encouraged him by returning once. The next time, you must make sure that you do not return — under ANY circumstances. The longer you stay, the more power you give to him. He will begin to believe that he owns you and that you will do exactly what he says. Soon, he will be threatening to kill you if you leave him. He may not have hit you yet, but do not give him the time to do so.

Get yourself together and plan your escape. You should contact some kind of agency or women’s group if you don’t have the means. Someone out there will help you. DO NOT GIVE UP!

I don’t care what he says. Men like him are self-centered and selfish. Don’t believe any claims of true love. He doesn’t love himself and he’s certainly not going to love you, but he can put on a great act and cry crocodile tears. You have only been husband and wife for TWO years. This is a very bad sign of worse things to come if you remain there.

You should be angry. You should get darn MAD! So many of these stupid men are rotten husbands, yet they expect a woman to stay with them. This isn’t what you signed up for did you? He’s basically USING you as a meal ticket.

I’ll tell you straight: You my dear, are married to a bum. You let him know that YOU are angry. He wasted your time and you must believe that you can do much, much better. You do not want a man like that to be fathering any children you may have.

Don’t allow any man to chase you down and force you back under his control. How can he do that? He can’t unless you let him. It’s as simple as that.

You must push yourself past your discomfort and make it happen one way or another.

Best of luck and my prayers for you.

He cannot do these things if you do not allow it. Period.

Be very careful. It is during the phase of actually leaving that many, many women are killed by these abusive psychopaths.

Stop allowing him to take you to cash your check. Stop allowing him to take your money. Stop allowing him to do ANY of this crap. Just say NO. And don’t back down. If he hits you, call the police immediately and give them the same history of your relationship that you just gave us. He will be arrrested and you WILL press charges against him, you will NOT drop the charges, unless of course you want him to continue to abuse you.

Save up your money in a bank deposit box or somewhere he cannot find it. When you have what you feel is enough, wait until he is going to be gone for a good while one day, pack up what you want to take with you, and call a cab and get out.

Do not leave ANYTHING behind that he can use to find you. Phone bills even with your friend’s number in another state, burn them. Anything at all that will give him any idea of where you’ve gone, get rid of it permanently, dont just throw it in the household trash can. Burn it.

Hide out at a women’s shelter for at least a couple of weeks before taking the bus to your friend’s house in the other state.

Then get your head examined so that you can learn what it is inside you that is so dysfunctional that you allowed yourself to give permission to a psychopath to control you like this, or to even get involved with someone like this in the first place. Seriously, Im not kidding. Unless you do this, you’ll end up time and time again with the same kind of guy, and you may as well stay with this one if that’s what you’re going to do.