Comments on: Friend trouble. help. My best friend is a stay at home mom of 2? http://www.cashbeforepayday.org/cash-before-payday/friend-trouble-help-my-best-friend-is-a-stay-at-home-mom-of-2/ Discover more about Cash Before Payday Loans Sun, 20 May 2012 13:43:40 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc By: Arleen J http://www.cashbeforepayday.org/cash-before-payday/friend-trouble-help-my-best-friend-is-a-stay-at-home-mom-of-2/#comment-7312 Arleen J Thu, 28 Aug 2008 19:47:09 +0000 http://www.cashbeforepayday.org/cash-before-payday/friend-trouble-help-my-best-friend-is-a-stay-at-home-mom-of-2/#comment-7312 What do you do? Simple. Stop being her goose. My aunt always use to say, "If you're a goose people will pluck your feathers"' That is so true. This a case where your kindness is being mistaken or just plain taken for stupidity. You said yourself she's a user. Knowing that don't continue to let her make a fool of you. She sounds like a lot of men who abuse women. After they beat the crap out of them they're sorry and swear they won't do it again...until the next time. You've talked to her about this and she cries and swears she'll never ask for anything. Then when she thinks it's all blown over and you've forgotten about it she starts all over again. She's not your friend. She's not even interested in being your friend. Stop trying to be hers. The next time she needs something tell her you're too busy. If she's crying poor mouth you're short on cash. Do you have $100 for her to give to her housekeeper? Let her drop off and pick up her own kid. What would she do if you didn't live near enough for her to ask you? Whatever she would do in that instance let her do it whenever she needs child care services. I know you like to help but she's taking advantage. Sometimes in life you have to be a little selfish. You have to look out for and take care of you because if you don't it's a cinch no one else will. The less you have to do with her the better particularly as her husband isn't very nice to you. She probably never bothered to tell him about all the times you've helped her out. Let her fend for herself. What do you do? Simple. Stop being her goose. My aunt always use to say, “If you’re a goose people will pluck your feathers”‘ That is so true. This a case where your kindness is being mistaken or just plain taken for stupidity. You said yourself she’s a user. Knowing that don’t continue to let her make a fool of you.

She sounds like a lot of men who abuse women. After they beat the crap out of them they’re sorry and swear they won’t do it again…until the next time. You’ve talked to her about this and she cries and swears she’ll never ask for anything. Then when she thinks it’s all blown over and you’ve forgotten about it she starts all over again.

She’s not your friend. She’s not even interested in being your friend. Stop trying to be hers. The next time she needs something tell her you’re too busy. If she’s crying poor mouth you’re short on cash. Do you have $100 for her to give to her housekeeper? Let her drop off and pick up her own kid. What would she do if you didn’t live near enough for her to ask you? Whatever she would do in that instance let her do it whenever she needs child care services.

I know you like to help but she’s taking advantage. Sometimes in life you have to be a little selfish. You have to look out for and take care of you because if you don’t it’s a cinch no one else will.

The less you have to do with her the better particularly as her husband isn’t very nice to you. She probably never bothered to tell him about all the times you’ve helped her out. Let her fend for herself.

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